This was the opening question posed at the recent Well-Being for Women presentation presented by Maxine Szramka and Katie Walls in Surry Hills, Sydney.
The presentation led into a discussion on what is true wellbeing and what are some of the key factors that get in the way of us experiencing true wellbeing as women. A point of consideration presented was that if we are feeling tension then we are in a state of ill-being.
Resilience as a way to 'get by'
A discussion on and around how we have used resilience as women to get by opened up a conversation that most women could relate to. Resilience has become our best friend. We have used it to toughen up, to be able to do it all, to be the superwoman; the mother, daughter, friend, career woman, wife, partner and in this state of being ‘resilient’ we then override listening to what our body needs in way of self nurturing and self care. Resilience has been championed in our society, yet it has not delivered in giving us true well-being because we are still feeling the pressures and tensions of life not to mention the increasing rates of cancers and women’s health issues.
With resilience we are able to ‘get by’ as women– but isn’t this ‘getting by’ a far cry from a true state of well-being that we can live as women, a life that is filled with joy, connection and love that is felt from the body on a daily basis.
Our innate sensitivity as women
Innately we are deeply sensitive and yet for many of us we have chosen to numb our sensitivity because the world has told us that it is not okay, that we won’t survive or get by if we are too sensitive.
If we reflect back to when we were little girls most can remember this sensitivity and just how gorgeous it felt. But at some point we decided that being sensitive was not a good thing. We are fed and then we buy into the pictures that we can be the super woman, overriding much of what doesn’t feel good. We put on our cape, stand proud and tall in our boots and get on with life.
Sensitivity as our 'superpower'
The discussion within the group presentation led into to that perhaps we have got it wrong and our sensitivity is actually our superpower. That being sensitive is what allows us to feel and be in the world in a way that honours the innate preciousness and natural power that we all are as women.
We discussed that the body has a deep wisdom, yet we often choose not to listen to it and we override it in an effort to achieve everything we think we need to. However, what we arrived at is that it is through our sensitivity that we can feel what it is that the body requires to be in a true state of wellbeing, so when we surrender in our body and allow ourselves to be tender, we naturally connect to the woman that is there within and from this quality have the ability to honour her in all that we do. Living in connection is what leads to true well-being.
Could it be that sensitivity is the new black?
Isn’t it time that we turned the tables around and honour our sensitivity as ignoring it hasn’t worked so far which is evident with the increase in women’s health issues over the past decade? Could it be that honouring our sensitvity is the key to true wellbeing for us as women?
By Donna Gianniotis
Well-Being for Women presentations are held in Surry Hills in Sydney. The next upcoming presentations will be held on Tuesday 12th July & Tuesday 11th October at Surry Hills Library and Neighbourhood Centre. Read more